Letter To Myself

Dearest Timothy,

You’re not paying attention to the important things! At the risk of sounding like a New Testament Bible-thumper, I would advise you to reflect long and hard on three things: Love, Hope and Patience.

In matters of love, I would strongly suggest that you set aside all superficial notions about love. Good looks, popularity, money, all these things are ephemeral and will pass away with time. The questions you should focus on are these: Is this person I’m enamored of someone I would do anything for, unselfishly giving of myself to make life easier for them? Would I sacrifice my own comfort and desires in order to ensure my partner will be happy and satisfied? Would I want to go as far as to lay down my own life in deference to their well-being? If you can truthfully answer “yes” to these questions, it’s a good bet your love is true and valid. As a three-time matrimonial merry-go-round loser, I can attest to the fact that these criteria are the only ones that are relevant in your quest for true love.

They say “Hope springs eternal in the human breast”. I believe it is true, although you couldn’t tell it from some peoples actions. No matter how crappy life looks, no matter how many slings and arrows are directed your way, you must always realize that there will be light at the end of the tunnel. Some people give up way too easily, even resorting to suicide as a release from seeming hopelessness. Always remember there are those that are even less fortunate than you and giving up on trying to better your life is the coward’s refuge.

Finally, Patience. In this modern world of instant gratification, quick and easy credit and the constant bombardment from all sides insisting that you “Act Now!”, you must insist on time to reflect, time to plan, time to save. When you act rashly, without considering the future consequences of those acts, you are inviting remorse at the least and disaster at the most. Nothing is so important (save, perhaps, for stepping out of the way of a speeding bus) that the decision won’t benefit from a careful weighing of all factors involved in that decision. It can wait.

Oh, there may be other ancillary concepts and modes of behavior that may appeal to your sensitivities. But, since you asked my advice, these are the Big Three I would base my life around. I pray you listen to The Voice Of Experience. It’s worked out pretty good for me at age 61!

Good luck, Sport.

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